My boyfriend seems perfect
But there's a difference between a caring boyfriend, and a guy who's actually jealous and controlling. There are some telltale markers of trouble, and if you spot enough of them, bail on that relationship — it isn't going anywhere good. He fondly calls you "crazy" or "too much," like he's so chill and you aren't. And that's bad, because it puts him a few rungs above you on the humanity ladder.
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I’ve started to feel like my boyfriend isn’t ‘the one’, should I leave?
But there's a difference between a caring boyfriend, and a guy who's actually jealous and controlling. There are some telltale markers of trouble, and if you spot enough of them, bail on that relationship — it isn't going anywhere good. He fondly calls you "crazy" or "too much," like he's so chill and you aren't.
And that's bad, because it puts him a few rungs above you on the humanity ladder. Very uncool. When he smiles and says things like, "You're perfect," like you're his personal Barbie doll. What's wrong with this, right? It should be a compliment.
This sucker is putting you on a pedestal — he thinks you're superhuman, and even if you are a total badass, everyone has their low moments. When he only wants to hang out if it's intimate sexy time just one-on-one, like your relationship is just a string of cute dates.
This is how humans operate. We like to combine good things. Why else do you think pizza bagels exist? At first it seems nice — he wants to make sure you're having a good time! But if a guy can't learn to relax and let you have well-deserved time out with friends you've had longer than you've known him, he's not being sweet.
He's being selfish and controlling. He says things like, "Oh, I know exactly how you feel," when you come to him with a super-real problem. This isn't empathy, it's like reading off a "how to make someone feel OK" script, and it's bullshit. Long-term, you want to be with someone who doesn't just take your problems away from you, you want to be with someone who helps you work through them and grow.
There's nothing more frustrating than feeling like your problems are insignificant because he can one-up all your problems. If he makes a habit of comparing you to other women, even if it's to say that you're better or prettier than them.
Women are individuals, not items to be ranked. If this is happening, he thinks that women do everything with their bodies to suit other men, and that's just garbage. He might not act outright jealous, but he should literally never ever question anything you're wearing. That's a right reserved for the safety of group texts and judgmental moms only. He makes comments about wanting to protect you from other guys.
Basically he should never act on your behalf unless you ask him too. And he's not a fan of you spending time with your guy friends. But, like, he can have as many female friends as he wants and it's chill. This is so real I can't even focus right now. Petty jealousy only feels flirty until it stands in the way of your life outside of the relationship, and if you find that your friendship with guy friends are suffering because it just makes him "a little uncomfortable" when you hang out one-on-one with your bros, that's no good.
He should know you and respect you well enough to let this go. Adults can have friends of the opposite sex, it's fine. He gets jealous when other guys hit on you, as if that's your fucking problem and you can create an invisibility cloak around yourself. LOL, this is such shit. Like, you don't personally enjoy it. And second of all, how dare he get jealous at something that's actually just a side effect of a sexist culture.
Instead of getting mad at you for getting harassed, he should maybe consider asking how it makes you feel. I'm sorry, he's your boyfriend, not your life coach. A boyfriend should be supportive and offer help if you need it, but his unsolicited advice on every little aspect of your life is not support, it's manipulation.
If his suggestions feel even remotely shame-y, run for the hills. When you say you want to spend a night or two alone, he whines or gets mad. Awww, how sweet — little pup wants to hang out with you all the time! If he can't handle a night or several apart, he's got some major insecurities going on and they're definitely going to suck the life out of you.
You have to be able to take time apart from one another — sure, you can miss each other, but it's healthy to maintain some sort of space in order to maintain your identity and sanity. If you say you don't want to have sex that night, he says "Awww, but you look so sexy tonight.
Anything other than a simple "Yep, sounds cool, totally no problem" is actually pressure, and that's a huge problem. Follow Hannah on Twitter. United States. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories. Hannah Smothers Hannah writes about health, sex, and relationships for Cosmopolitan, and you can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
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I obsess about my perfect boyfriend
After a string of bad first dates or unfulfilling hookups, settling into something solid with a new boo can feel unbelievable. Of course, if you're seeing someone new and everything feels good — like, freakishly good — it's natural to wonder if your relationship is too good to be true. Whether you're used to dating total duds or you've never had a serious partnership before, someone being totally dependable and sweet, like, all the time, can honestly be disorienting.
Here are 8 basic signs that you need to remember just in case he is too good to be true. When I met my ex we worked together. I was miserable in my marriage and ending it. I felt unloved, unwanted and my self-esteem was low.
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He is your number one fan. He is the first one to congratulate you when you passed all your subjects. He makes the layout of your tarpaulin when you were awarded as cum laude. He delivers the news to everyone when you win a certain contest. He may not carry cheerleading pompoms, but you he makes you feel that you are a superstar. Even during your losing moments, he will still be very proud of you. Even if you feel like a pathetic loser, he will make you feel like a winner. He does not fail to text and call you.
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Okay, so maybe the word 'perfect' is a little much. To be honest, if someone held me up on a pedestal of being someone's perfect anything I'd probably fvck it up because of the pressure to come through. So yeah, maybe perfect isn't the right word but when it comes to bae they're either the best or the worst. If you clicked onto this article you're either somebody's girlfriend looking for validation that you're doing something right or you're somebody's boyfriend looking for reasons to see what bae isn't doing. PSA: Once again, bae not come clutch with a few qualities on this list.
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Sometimes guys who seem too perfect are too good to be true. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws, but perfect guys have mastered how to hide them from view. Flaws can be beautiful. They end up being lifeless and boring. What are they hiding?
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My boyfriend and I are in our mid-twenties and have been together for 7 years. He's a kind, loving and respectful partner, so I find it difficult to explain exactly why I feel this way. Of course, like anybody, he isn't perfect. He can lack assertiveness and ambition which I find frustrating. He can also be quite clingy and easily offended. However, I feel I've undermined his confidence over the years by more than once saying that I plan to leave — only for him to persuade me to stay.
B eing around him is always fun, even when the situation isn't. Like that one time you were stuck in line at the bank for, like, two hours, so you both made up a weird game involving deposit slips and finding people in the bank who may or may not be drug dealers. Being with him turns all things into great things. He knows about your weirdo shit and he's into it. He knows you watch Lifetime movies over and over again while wearing a bathrobe and eating rice cakes, and he thinks it's cute for some reason.