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My husband cheated on me within the first year of our marriage going as far as having a full relationship with someone. I discovered the truth when he introduced this person to me as a potential business partner. During this time I found correspondence of theirs, where they were sexting and reminiscing over the past. Over the years I suspected infidelity but never had proof. I have always been accused of not trusting. We have been married now for 14 years.

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A "sexual fling" and its destructive powers that I thought we were working on I was wrong was what started unraveling out marriage. While separated to "work things out" he had a full-fledged affair and lied right to my face so many times. He showed no remorse for his infidelity, was disrespectful, and his emotional abuse was unbelievable. There has been too much damage done and he thinks I'm the only one who should be working on things.

He still remains secretive and won't talk without blowing up at me. It's never the right time to talk with him. He will always find a good excuse to shut me up and he always puts me down…hard. I was the only one trying to communicate in the marriage in an attempt to resolve our differences. He doesn't like to talk about anything, anytime. His game is to ignore me. If he ignores me long enough he can continue to blame me by saying "That happened 3 years ago. When are you going to let that go and move on?

He blows up and I back down but the questions never leave my mind they resurface at a later date. But it's my problem not his. He's content just sweeping all his lies and betrayals under the rug and leaving it all there. We've been married for 38 years. I have no children he can't be a father. All I ever wanted to be was a Mom, but since it didn't matter to him, we never adopted either.

I'm so depressed. My entire adult life was just a waste. He thinks I should be content with devoting my life to him as he deserves it. Clearly I don't deserve anything and he should get an award for putting up with me. If I filed for a divorce he wouldn't have to pay spousal support if he's retired. What a thoughtful man he is. Thoughtful of himself alone! I was a virgin when we married too.

He's all I've ever known. I'm all alone. I have no one. Post reply. Return to Your Reasons For Divorce. Recent Articles. Tips for healing your pain and boosting your level of life satisfaction. Read More. Doing your own divorce is tempting, especially if money is tight. Here are some things to consider before proceeding. After a bad marriage and a bad divorce, many women are ready to get rid of this symbol of eternal love.

These tips can help turn your bridal bling into money. Disclaimer - Legal information is not legal advice. All rights reserved. No remorse for his infidelity by Rose California A "sexual fling" and its destructive powers that I thought we were working on I was wrong was what started unraveling out marriage. I hope you found peace in this. I am truly sorry for all that you have dealt with from this selfish human soul.

I hope you have found your peace in this and wish you all the best. I got diagnosed with cancer, with him promising he would stay by myside. I stayed single for 3 years. Then he came back after leaving me for two weeks and wanted me back.

A woman who cares by: Tami I read your story and I can relate in some ways. I was so stirred up with emotion when I read your story it made me feel a sense of compassion and a need to respond.

I wanted to save myself for marriage, but he said we were going to wait to get married. I never got the wedding! Then another bad relationship the same type of guy.

Then when I did finally get a wedding, it was not special. We fought up till it was time to get married it was at a court house and he had an affair just 2 weeks later.

So me saying that this was just bad choices on my part, and so reading your story humbled me. He was your first, you married him, and you have stayed by his side trying to save your marriage.

You are strong. Maybe he needs to see that you are someone he is capable of losing if he cannot cherish you. Sincerely Tami. You deserve more by: Anonymous Never forget your actual worth.

Having nothing financially is worth having your pride. You are stronger than you know. Thinks he deserves it by: Anonymous I have been married for 45 years since age We had three children and he had successful business, plus we had lots of fun vacations and friends.

As his drinking got worse I became unhappy and went back to school to get my RN license so I could leave. Thankfully I have a career that I love but I ended up staying married. We faced trials and troubles in our family and stuck it out together. Finally a year ago we found out he has cirrhosis of the liver.

I did all I possibly could to help him with this and his other various medical problems including diabetes. Three months ago he went to rehab, but a week before he went I discovered he had been seeing another woman.

I feel stuck though because of his poor health. This sounds so like my situation except it's only been 7 years and I divorced him because of the constant lying about the stuff he was doing.

It's sad… they hold you hostage by your love and being a good person. I regretfully got back with mine. He took the choice away from me to decide whether to get back with him or stay apart by lying about talking to his ex and starting a whole other relationship in a different state. By the way, he still lies about talking to his ex.

I would not have gotten back with him had I known. He is not remorseful and has zero sympathy or empathy for what I am going through. And he had the balls to say it was my problem, like your guy said. It's cowardly and pathetic and I have no respect for him at all. He only talks about God when he thinks it'll get him out of a crack or I'll see him as a good Christian man.

I typed in how he was acting one day and narcissism kept popping up I hate dealing and being around someone like this. It's time consuming plus energy and time wasted. I have quit going to church, reading my bible, I lost my job, not to mention other downing happenings since we "got back together". I am completely done this time. I can empathize with your situation and am so sorry this has happened. Anonymous is right, you are never alone. Jesus sticks closer than a brother.

The love that Our Father has for us is indescribable and He will heal your hurts. Feel all alone by: Anonymous You are never alone if you believe in Jesus. Sometimes we learn lessons from the experiences in life. The hard lesson learned here is that not everyone put here is as kind as you are. Remember that and don't let people like that lose to your heart.

Still feel betrayed by: Anonymous I did not know my ex-husband was on Facebook for years, contacting old girlfriends or having emotional and sexual affairs. I was clueless for 37 years, which makes me a total idiot.

I did not like how he treated me in the marriage but still felt or unrealistically dreamed he could be trusted with fidelity and pursued the best interests of his family. I was so wrong about his self-centered personality. I still feel betrayed 5 years after the divorce.

My Husband Cheated Years Ago But I Just Found Out

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After the revelation of an affair or other sexually inappropriate behavior it unfortunately, is very easy for the unfaithful spouse to make a series of well-meaning mistakes which only complicates the situation. Listed below are some of the most common ones we see in our practice. We hope that this information will help guide your actions.

Enjoying your new role as teacher?! Like your husband, my husbands behaviour was totally out of character and he is sorry, guilty and working so hard to repair the damage he has caused. I gave him another chance, mainly for the sake of our two young kids. Up until September I honestly thought I would never get over what had happened but things have improved no end since. You haven't gone into detail so I hope you don't mind me asking if your husband has had any contact with his affair partner since you found out?

No remorse for his infidelity

A "sexual fling" and its destructive powers that I thought we were working on I was wrong was what started unraveling out marriage. While separated to "work things out" he had a full-fledged affair and lied right to my face so many times. He showed no remorse for his infidelity, was disrespectful, and his emotional abuse was unbelievable. There has been too much damage done and he thinks I'm the only one who should be working on things. He still remains secretive and won't talk without blowing up at me. It's never the right time to talk with him. He will always find a good excuse to shut me up and he always puts me down…hard. I was the only one trying to communicate in the marriage in an attempt to resolve our differences.

What would you do if you found out husband cheated 12 years ago?

I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of nearly a year cheated on me when he went on a lads holiday 8 months ago. He spent the whole week kissing a girl and skinny dipping, but they didn't have sex because one night she didn't want to and the next he said no to her. But I can't help thinking that if she had said yes the first night then it would have happened. He also spent the next month he got back talking to her arranging to meet, although I don't think they ever did. I've spoken to him about it and he said he feels so guilty, but that he wasn't happy with me at the time and she was nice and easy going while I just nag all the time and that's why he did it.

When two people get together, they date and spend time getting to know each other.

Would you give a cheating partner a second chance? And if you did, could you ever trust them again? In a recent Reddit thread, people shared what happened when they gave their cheating partner another chance. In some instances, the couples rebuilt the trust, and in other cases

Moving on after an affair that was 2 years ago

Yes, I understand he was in the fog… yes I understand why he made the decision and all that stuff… and I completely understand and believe that if he could go back and erase the entire affair he would. Does that stop the pain? Not at all.

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This is the predicament one woman finds herself in after uncovering an affair her husband was involved in a decade ago. Taking to Mumsne t to share her story and ask for advice, she asked whether she should hold on to her marriage or end it. Throw it all away? She added that the affair lasted for around a year and involved a handful of encounters, mostly in his car at lunchtime. It's just hard when the thing you're looking to forgive is a one year fling. Many commenters sympathised with the woman, saying it was normal to feel upset by the deception, regardless of when it happened.

20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse

A lot. In fact, the rate of infidelity , per social scientists, has risen steadily over the past decade. That it happens is not a surprise; the why, however, is always a bit more surprising. And of course, if couples choose to stick it out instead of calling it quits in the face of betrayal, there are a lot of questions. A lot of concerns. A lot of trust issues. And plenty of pain. Although it was not an emotional affair, she was still ready to leave her husband.

I recently found out my husband cheated 12 years ago, after 2 years together, right before pregnant with our first child. I don't know what to.

You've probably wondered before, "If my husband cheated on me, what would I do? Bankrupt him? Never let him see our kids again? Sure, that's what we think we'd do. But that's all just hypothetical.

Why I Cheated on My Husband (And Never Told)

After confronting her partner, the affair was denied. He was the type of man everyone loved being around, and was incredibly nice. For him to be unfaithful seemed out of character, especially since prior to this, the couple had been working to patch up their marriage. After admitting to the affair, they tried to make things work again, and this time, Alex left the ball in his court.

Five years later so much has changed in my life. We sent our oldest child off to college this fall and our younger two boys are in high school. We live busy lives and our children are becoming increasingly independent.

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We have been married for nearly 20 years. Sex has generally been good. My husband is older than me, a very sexual person, particularly friendly to both sexes and very flirtatious. This was not a problem for me, just an occasional irritation. This all came out when I pressed him for the truth.

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